2003 accord v6 auto trans recall
 

I bought a 2003 honda accord coupe v6 used that now has 40k miles. I
just started having problems with the car not wanting to shift into
second gear almost acting like it slips into neutral. after googling
"2003 honda accord recalls" i found that there was a recall for the
auto trans. problem. I found a 1-800 number to call honda, I spoke with
someone at that number who did verify that there is a recall and after
i gave her my VIN number they told me that this vehicle was serviced in
2004. obviously there is still a problem. Then she tells me that since
the car now has 40k miles and is older than 3 years, the factory will
no longer cover this repair!! how can that be if it is a RECALL ! I've
read that the problem is related to heat and is most likely related to
inadaquate <spelling?> transmission oil cooling. Does anyone know how i
should go about getting this resolved without me having to pay out of
pocket? I didnt make the car and if its a manufacturer recall i dont
see why they shouldnt be offering to take care of this for me.

has anyone dealt with similair circumstances purchasing an accord used
and then getting the recall serviced after 3 yr/36K miles?