97z2801ss

damn man
My dads aunts son or my second? cousin passed the other week, ohh well i didnt go to that one phew

sorry to hear about your fams loss 2 chadwick

camaro94

That's EXACTLY the way I am. Except its even worse when you're a girl and you aren't crying. I'm not an emotional/huggy person, and at a funeral I'm just awkward. I can't mutter the typical condolences because they are just dumb and I don't know what else to say.

And how everyone stands at the casket and says how good they look, or just stands there looking and crying and all that. I hate it. Its morbid, of course the person doesn't look good, they're DEAD. :sigh:

What irritated me the most though, was the memorial service yesterday. The preacher didn't even talk about Chris that much. It was more of Sunday Unless-you-are-saved-&-baptized-you-will-go-to-hell sermon. Hellfire and damnation and all that junk. That is not how you honor someone's memory. It reminded me too much of the torture by church when my mother made me go. It's no wonder I'm agnostic now. Even my aunt(uncle's sister) said that it wasn't a good memorial. He didn't talk about Chris at all.

Adric

Thats what it was like when I went to one of my grandmother on my dads sides funeral. They barely said anything about her it was basically worthless. but then again when my old babysitters husband died they talked about him alot so that was nice. I donno funerals are just gay I think I rather just be thrown in a fire in the woods or something like Chad. Rather have that and BS in a church where they would just stare at a casket crying thinking more about my death than remembering me as a person. so.. basically if I die someone throw me in a forest fire.

camaro94

I liked what we did for my grandfather on my dad's side. He was cremated, so there was no service, no viewings, or anything of the sort. Instead of flowers, he had donations sent to the local library, and we had a wake. It was a bunch of family members at my aunt's house, eating, and talking about the past, and enjoying our selves. Honoring my grandfather's memory and celebrating life at the same time. I think its much better, and easier on the family, also.

woody80z28

I get to go to a funeral tomorrow. On my birthday. Awesome.

My friend from high school died on Friday in a car wreck. He was 22. I just got back from the calling hours about an hour ago. I'm never emotional about anything, but it hit me like a ton of bricks when I saw his family and gf up there. Weird memories come up like playing football and and sitting next to him on the bus & stuff...