Relationship problems need advice!
12-12-2006, 11:56 AM
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yea man tell her ure gay, then make out with her dad...
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Paar is right.. bwahahahahaha i love this thread!
seriously though man, Chicks are crazy dated a few... aslong as she isnt underage ure fine bro. Get the sack up n tell her , thats all you can really do. she will be upset, but a day or two of that is better then her driving u ******* crazy.
and/or stay for the presnt n then dip, be a dick, dont get her anything, when she asks why say you had togetsomething for your other girlfriend....
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Paar is right.. bwahahahahaha i love this thread!
seriously though man, Chicks are crazy dated a few... aslong as she isnt underage ure fine bro. Get the sack up n tell her , thats all you can really do. she will be upset, but a day or two of that is better then her driving u ******* crazy.
and/or stay for the presnt n then dip, be a dick, dont get her anything, when she asks why say you had togetsomething for your other girlfriend....
12-12-2006, 12:24 PM
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i had some help from a friend who talks to her, i told her to say that im with another girl also, i havnt heard from her since then. Im going to call her today and tell her im sorry for leading her on. And she lives on the other side of town and has no idea where i live (thank god) but she does know where i go to school, so hopefully she wont sweeten my gas tank, i hope not cause she does know if she wanted to get back at me my car would be the best way. She knows i love my car! LOL this thread is funny. tell her im Gay, lol i honestly thought about that...lol but she knows im not so i dont think that will work.. haha ive even tried telling her im into drugs, lol that didnt even work she told me as long as i dont get caught, im like wtf?
12-12-2006, 12:25 PM
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Ooh, you are in a difficult position.
There are three ways to break it off... one is to 'drop off the face of the Earth'. Basically you break all ties, all contact, you don't answer her calls, you avoid places she frequents, if she calls your house and you live with your parents or a roommate, they are instructed to ask who is calling, and if it is her, you are not home. If you live by yourself, you unplug your answering machine. That is the coward's way out, and while it's effective, doesn't allow me to give you much respect.
Second way is the 'preferred' (depending on who you are) method. Sit her down and just tell her "Look sweetie, we've had a lot of fun together, and I think you're a really spectacular girl, but things are still moving too quickly, and I'm really not comfortable with getting involved with someone right now. I'm really sorry, I don't think we should see each other on this kind of level anymore." You have to sound as empathetic to her feelings as possible. She'll still be upset, but less so than if you had told her "I don't like you anymore, f-off tramp".
Then there's the FUN way. This is for guys who do not have a conscience... so you can understand why I came up with it.
First off, start doing everything WRONG. She seems to feel as though you're the greatest thing and can do no wrong, well you need to change that ASAP. Start doing the opposite of what you normally do with her.
Second, spend MORE time with her. Why? Because you'll also be doing step one at the same time. With a little effort, her patience will soon start to wear thin and she'll get sick of you.
Third, HIT ON ALL HER FRIENDS. Non-stop. Flirt so much that you might as well take their panties right off in front of her. You need to bury into her brain that you are not committed to anyone.
Fourth, go on dates, then tell her about them... and say "As a friend, I need your advice... how can I tell if this girl I went out with likes me?" You also need to burn into her that she is your FRIEND, not GIRLFRIEND.
Personally, I've grown out of doing #3 because my days of being a ***** have come to an end (except when bugging NoRiceInside about having no *********/wanting to buy a Tiburon, and just harassing Paarman for no good reason). I would go with #2. Burning bridges isn't generally a good idea. And if you have mutual friends, #3 is definitely a "For Advanced Game only" step.
There are three ways to break it off... one is to 'drop off the face of the Earth'. Basically you break all ties, all contact, you don't answer her calls, you avoid places she frequents, if she calls your house and you live with your parents or a roommate, they are instructed to ask who is calling, and if it is her, you are not home. If you live by yourself, you unplug your answering machine. That is the coward's way out, and while it's effective, doesn't allow me to give you much respect.
Second way is the 'preferred' (depending on who you are) method. Sit her down and just tell her "Look sweetie, we've had a lot of fun together, and I think you're a really spectacular girl, but things are still moving too quickly, and I'm really not comfortable with getting involved with someone right now. I'm really sorry, I don't think we should see each other on this kind of level anymore." You have to sound as empathetic to her feelings as possible. She'll still be upset, but less so than if you had told her "I don't like you anymore, f-off tramp".
Then there's the FUN way. This is for guys who do not have a conscience... so you can understand why I came up with it.
First off, start doing everything WRONG. She seems to feel as though you're the greatest thing and can do no wrong, well you need to change that ASAP. Start doing the opposite of what you normally do with her.
Second, spend MORE time with her. Why? Because you'll also be doing step one at the same time. With a little effort, her patience will soon start to wear thin and she'll get sick of you.
Third, HIT ON ALL HER FRIENDS. Non-stop. Flirt so much that you might as well take their panties right off in front of her. You need to bury into her brain that you are not committed to anyone.
Fourth, go on dates, then tell her about them... and say "As a friend, I need your advice... how can I tell if this girl I went out with likes me?" You also need to burn into her that she is your FRIEND, not GIRLFRIEND.
Personally, I've grown out of doing #3 because my days of being a ***** have come to an end (except when bugging NoRiceInside about having no *********/wanting to buy a Tiburon, and just harassing Paarman for no good reason). I would go with #2. Burning bridges isn't generally a good idea. And if you have mutual friends, #3 is definitely a "For Advanced Game only" step.
12-12-2006, 12:42 PM
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I think im going to use number 2, i think ill even tell her word for word on what you wrote, thanks! Ive already tried number 3, to some extent, i told her everything she didnt want to hear, she was telling me im perfect, i told her im far from perfect, she tells me she wants to get serious, i told her im in now way of getting serious (which is true im in my prime how can I just settle down?) She told me she hates any mind stimulants , i told her im a huge pot head and i even sell pot/cocaine when i get a chance (not true) LOL!!!, then she says she wants to see me more often, i told her i like having my own space, Ive stood her up plenty of times and shes still there clingy. Ive even tried number 1, ive avoided her for days without talking to her, she will just send me millions of messages to my phone. I wont even respond and its like shes talking to her self. Shes not a ugly girl, im sure she wont have a problem getting another guy why she is clingy i dont know. Im no stud, nor do i have a nice piggy bank, sure i have a nice car but shes only seen it once, so i dont think that has to do with anything. Im not proud of it but ive even treated her bad plenty of times, once we were watching tv at her house then she starts to kiss me so i push her away and told her to let me watch tv, she cant take a hint at all. She even told me she loved me a couple times, i told her never to tell me that again because there is no such thing, how can she love me when she doesnt even know me? Why are girls always looking for love? I dont get it every single girl ive ever been with are the same, they are all fogged up trying to find there true love, shes only 18... whats the deal with that? BTW im only 19 for you who dont know.
12-12-2006, 01:10 PM
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LOL, So shes kinda the Ditzy Clingly Virgin type? LOL, Ive had woman problems...
Once I was TOLD we were Going Out.. I was Like WTF? NO... then she was like See ya at lunch.. i was like See ya in hell... And lunch came... And she came up to me and was like hey, lets get something to eat... I told her i already had.. and whatever... 3 weeks of this BS later. She got the hint. and now i see her, And im like a ghost.. I see her on the road, i wave.. she doesnt.. Some women man Geeze. PITFA... Its like AHHHHH some Woman can drive a Forever sober man to drink...
Good Luck To you.
Once I was TOLD we were Going Out.. I was Like WTF? NO... then she was like See ya at lunch.. i was like See ya in hell... And lunch came... And she came up to me and was like hey, lets get something to eat... I told her i already had.. and whatever... 3 weeks of this BS later. She got the hint. and now i see her, And im like a ghost.. I see her on the road, i wave.. she doesnt.. Some women man Geeze. PITFA... Its like AHHHHH some Woman can drive a Forever sober man to drink...
Good Luck To you.
12-12-2006, 01:14 PM
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ok this is what im going to send her,
tell me what you all think...
Look gorgeous, we've had a lot of fun together, and I think you're a really spectacular girl like no other, but things are still moving too quickly, and I'm really not sure about getting serious with someone right now. I just dont think i could commit, Ive tried but I just cant. I'm really sorry, I don't think we should see each other on this kind of level anymore. I do still want to hang around with you. I just dont know what i want right now. You need someone that will give you the attention you deserve I just dont think I can be that person. I never had any intentions of hurting you i promise thats why ive been saying we need to take it slow I didnt want to get your hopes high. I mean you still have your whole life infront of you why are you looking for love now?
I tried to make it like i was the one with problems, hoping that will soften her up...
tell me what you all think...
Look gorgeous, we've had a lot of fun together, and I think you're a really spectacular girl like no other, but things are still moving too quickly, and I'm really not sure about getting serious with someone right now. I just dont think i could commit, Ive tried but I just cant. I'm really sorry, I don't think we should see each other on this kind of level anymore. I do still want to hang around with you. I just dont know what i want right now. You need someone that will give you the attention you deserve I just dont think I can be that person. I never had any intentions of hurting you i promise thats why ive been saying we need to take it slow I didnt want to get your hopes high. I mean you still have your whole life infront of you why are you looking for love now?
I tried to make it like i was the one with problems, hoping that will soften her up...
12-12-2006, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted by MetalliCamaro
LOL, So shes kinda the Ditzy Clingly Virgin type? LOL, Ive had woman problems...
Once I was TOLD we were Going Out.. I was Like WTF? NO... then she was like See ya at lunch.. i was like See ya in hell... And lunch came... And she came up to me and was like hey, lets get something to eat... I told her i already had.. and whatever... 3 weeks of this BS later. She got the hint. and now i see her, And im like a ghost.. I see her on the road, i wave.. she doesnt.. Some women man Geeze. PITFA... Its like AHHHHH some Woman can drive a Forever sober man to drink...
Good Luck To you.
Once I was TOLD we were Going Out.. I was Like WTF? NO... then she was like See ya at lunch.. i was like See ya in hell... And lunch came... And she came up to me and was like hey, lets get something to eat... I told her i already had.. and whatever... 3 weeks of this BS later. She got the hint. and now i see her, And im like a ghost.. I see her on the road, i wave.. she doesnt.. Some women man Geeze. PITFA... Its like AHHHHH some Woman can drive a Forever sober man to drink...
Good Luck To you.
lol, shes kinda like that all exept for the virgin part
12-12-2006, 01:39 PM
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HOLY **** THIS WAS HER RESPONSE This is really starting to get to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok listen it was my fault not yours i did alot of thinking last night and i saw that i was moving into this way to fast maybe it's cause i didn't want a serious relationship and i didn't want to loose you but i looked and i've just been pushing you away it's my fault i still want this but like you said slowly and this time i'll take it slow i just need to learn to be patient javier i really wanna be with you it was my fault not yours i'm making it go fast and i don't want that anymore we just need to give it a day at a time and i'm sorry i jumped in so quickly again. But ilike you said before i don't want to be without on terms of us not being together. I'll take it slow i swear. Just lets try this again please?
Ok listen it was my fault not yours i did alot of thinking last night and i saw that i was moving into this way to fast maybe it's cause i didn't want a serious relationship and i didn't want to loose you but i looked and i've just been pushing you away it's my fault i still want this but like you said slowly and this time i'll take it slow i just need to learn to be patient javier i really wanna be with you it was my fault not yours i'm making it go fast and i don't want that anymore we just need to give it a day at a time and i'm sorry i jumped in so quickly again. But ilike you said before i don't want to be without on terms of us not being together. I'll take it slow i swear. Just lets try this again please?
12-12-2006, 02:04 PM
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FIRST mistake. You e-mailed her. You CANNOT e-mail a 'break-up' to a clingy girl. You HAVE to do it in person, the power of your tone DOES NOT TRANSLATE through text. You need to ***** up and tell her face to face.
SECOND mistake... "I do still want to hang around with you." BAD move. That simply does not work. By saying that, you're giving her hope that there still might be something. Whereas the line prior to it takes everything away without actually saying "Maybe we could be friends". If you have ever had a serious relationship go sour, and tried to 'remain friends', you know it doesn't work right away. You either end up hating each other or f'cking each other and dating all over again. You need a buffer where you do not see each other to let the feelings (or lack thereof) subside . It took me a year and a half to be 'friends' with my ex. We weren't even on speaking terms until then.
You need to see her in person and tell her "You're an awesome girl, but I think we're done dating. Things just haven't been clicking with me, and I don't want to hurt you, but we're kind of past that point, especially for the time that both of us have invested in this." You left a huge door open for her to stick her foot back in with that e-mail, and as a result, made it that much harder to break up with her without feeling like a total dick head. You need to make her know that "No, there's no 'second chance', it's over". Otherwise she'll keep asking for one.
The reason I wrote what I wrote is because it works. You don't fix what ain't broke. You added like six different lines that only make it easier for her to weasel her way back. KISS principle... keep it simple, stupid. Not to mention I told you to 'sit her down' and say it, not 'fire her off an e-mail'.
You're 19, I understand this, you're just only developing your game, but you gotta listen to us veterans. We've been there before, me plenty of times (at age 21, I know it sounds silly but you wouldn't understand if I explained). I wouldn't tell you something to make her come running back to you.
Now go break that girl's heart already.
SECOND mistake... "I do still want to hang around with you." BAD move. That simply does not work. By saying that, you're giving her hope that there still might be something. Whereas the line prior to it takes everything away without actually saying "Maybe we could be friends". If you have ever had a serious relationship go sour, and tried to 'remain friends', you know it doesn't work right away. You either end up hating each other or f'cking each other and dating all over again. You need a buffer where you do not see each other to let the feelings (or lack thereof) subside . It took me a year and a half to be 'friends' with my ex. We weren't even on speaking terms until then.
You need to see her in person and tell her "You're an awesome girl, but I think we're done dating. Things just haven't been clicking with me, and I don't want to hurt you, but we're kind of past that point, especially for the time that both of us have invested in this." You left a huge door open for her to stick her foot back in with that e-mail, and as a result, made it that much harder to break up with her without feeling like a total dick head. You need to make her know that "No, there's no 'second chance', it's over". Otherwise she'll keep asking for one.
The reason I wrote what I wrote is because it works. You don't fix what ain't broke. You added like six different lines that only make it easier for her to weasel her way back. KISS principle... keep it simple, stupid. Not to mention I told you to 'sit her down' and say it, not 'fire her off an e-mail'.
You're 19, I understand this, you're just only developing your game, but you gotta listen to us veterans. We've been there before, me plenty of times (at age 21, I know it sounds silly but you wouldn't understand if I explained). I wouldn't tell you something to make her come running back to you.
Now go break that girl's heart already.
12-12-2006, 02:10 PM
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she just called me, i told her we should stay friends but anything is out of the question. Shes pissed she even hung up on me. o well... i feel bad but yet have this huge relief, thats were i am right now...
TorqueDog, i really do appricate your help, it did help me out alot. Made it clear to me that i have to man up and get myself out of situations that i put myself in. Thanks again man i owe you one...
TorqueDog, i really do appricate your help, it did help me out alot. Made it clear to me that i have to man up and get myself out of situations that i put myself in. Thanks again man i owe you one...
12-12-2006, 03:07 PM
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Originally Posted by bLkWdOw SS
she just called me, i told her we should stay friends but anything is out of the question. Shes pissed she even hung up on me. o well... i feel bad but yet have this huge relief, thats were i am right now...
TorqueDog, i really do appricate your help, it did help me out alot. Made it clear to me that i have to man up and get myself out of situations that i put myself in. Thanks again man i owe you one...
TorqueDog, i really do appricate your help, it did help me out alot. Made it clear to me that i have to man up and get myself out of situations that i put myself in. Thanks again man i owe you one...
Not a problem pal. Been there before, it sure as hell isn't fun.